Joyful Noise

U.C.M. Newsletter of Joy, Humor, Laughter, and Inspiration

Editor: Rev. Doti Boon

Vol. 9 pg. 29 (07-22-10)


I am an expression of God in all that I do.

How to Give and Receive a Compliment

          Last Sunday we had the most wonderful play – “God and Little Soul” adapted from Neale Donald Walsch’s short story. The presenters, Dr. Ayleen Augustine (GOD), Joe Thompson (Little Soul) and Rev. Janet Childs (Friendly Soul) were the recipients of a Standing Ovation. As I beamed with pride, the trio took bows and waved their hands, and the congregation kept applauding wildly. As I lovingly watched all of this – I was so delighted that everyone was giving and receiving compliments with such joy.

Compliments are such wonderful and yet difficult things.  We want to honor someone for a good job, but not embarrass them. And, as a recipient, we want to be grateful without seeming full of ourselves or conceited.

          Have you ever complimented anyone and have it backfire? How about complimenting someone on a great job – only to have them complain that they didn’t get a big enough raise, or that nobody really cares? How about when someone compliments you on your new hairdo, a new outfit or your weight loss, when your hairdo and outfit are both five years old and you are disgusted because you have gained five pounds.  What do you say?

          Let’s look at some of the basics of compliments.

          Be specific. Don’t say you’re good at your job; say it was a great report.

          Show impact. Tell how the person positively affected you.

          If you receive a compliment, just say “thank you.” Don’t make a self-depreciating remark or feel you have to give a compliment in return.

          We like to get compliments from fellow workers and the boss. A compliment from a stranger is welcome if the person has no hidden agenda.

          Remember that people hear what they want to hear or expect to hear. If they are feeling good about themselves, they will like a compliment. If they are feeling insecure or have self-doubt, they could read the wrong thing into what you are saying.

          Be careful. If you say a guy looks handsome today, he might wonder how you think about him otherwise. Instead, say his sweater is handsome. Sometimes loved ones and friends have trouble hearing what we are saying.

          Are you afraid of giving compliments? Afraid of being misunderstood? Before you open your mouth, think of what you really want to say! The following are some examples:

          If your supervisor is kind and fair, you might say – “You are a good leader.” Or, “You make working on a project a joy.”

          If someone is caring and friendly, “You are a good listener.” Or, “You make me feel special.”

          If someone has a positive attitude – “You make me want to be a better person.”

          There are so many ways to give a compliments and don’t forget to go ahead and praise yourself if no one is giving a compliment you merit. Appreciate your new outfit, a job well done, your spiritual growth or what a wonderful child of God you truly are!


          Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Be happy now. Don’t wait for something outside of yourself to make you happy in the future. Think how really precious time is, whether it’s at work or with your family.

          Earl Nightingale, personal advisor.

Watch your thoughts, they become words.

Watch your words, they become actions.

Watch your actions, they become habits.

Watch your habits, they become character

Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.

Frank Outlaw, founder of Bi-Lo Supermarkets in South Carolina.


Satan or God?

There was a big pecan tree just inside the cemetery fence. One day, two boys filled a bucket with nuts and sat under the tree to divide them. Several dropped and rolled toward the fence.

Another boy, riding by on his bike, heard voices and stopped. He heard, “One for you, one for me.”

He jumped back on his bike and rode around the bend, where he met an old man hobbling along with a cane. The boy said, “Come quick! Satan and the Lord are dividing up the souls!” The old man hobbled to the cemetery.

Shaking with fear, he whispered, “Boy, you’ve been tellin’ the truth.”

Then the voice said, “Let’s get those nuts by the fence and we’ll be done.”

They say the old man made it back to town ahead of the kid on the bike.



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