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A Joyful Noise!

May 20, 2011

U.C.M. Newsletter of Joy, Humor, Laughter, and Inspiration

Editor: Rev. Doti Boon

Vol. 10 pg 20 (05-19-11) FORGIVENESS


I am a forgiving and loving individual.

          Have you ever done anything where you got angry, went into a rage and then afterwards felt awful and stupid? Well, I experienced all of these sensations on Monday of this week and after I got through ranting and raving. I simply stood with my mouth open and said, “Oh my God, I need help.”

After hours of deliberation, lots of prayer, and some good old fashioned talking to myself, I realized I still had lots of resentment and it was taking me into acute depression. Now what! I sent emails of apology, called various folks and generally humbled myself – and yet I still didn’t feel forgiving, but most of all I didn’t feel forgiven.

So, I decided to write about forgiveness – and as God always answers my prayers, tonight Min. Julie Hawkins will be presenting a class in Ho’oponopono! – Which means “to make right with the people with whom you have relationships.” Don’t you love it when God answers so quickly?

I have found one of the most difficult things we humans are ever called upon to do is to forgive and ask to be forgiven.  Study after study shows that one of the keys to longevity and good health is to develop a habit of gratitude and let go of past hurts.
Want to live a long, happy life?  Learn to forgive.  It really is the kindest thing you can do for yourself.

Here are some interesting and worthwhile instructions on how to work with forgiveness.

          1.  Identify who in your life needs forgiveness.  It may be someone who has asked you repeatedly for forgiveness, or it may be someone who has never apologized to you, or sometimes it may be a person who doesn’t even realize they have hurt you!

2. Understand that everyone has made mistakes.  Humans do really nasty things sometimes, and often we wish with all of our hearts we could turn back time and erase those things.  We haven’t figured a way to turn back time yet but we can forgive people who have hurt us, and that will lighten the load on you, and the person who has hurt you.

3. Think back to all of the times you may have hurt someone (intentionally or not), or may have done things that were wrong.  Think how it would feel to you if no one had ever forgiven you for any of those things.  Now remember how good it feels to have someone forgive you.  Keep these feelings in mind at all times.

4. Realize that in order for you to expect people to forgive you, you HAVE to forgive others.  Forgiveness is a two way street.  If you have someone in your life who you have not forgiven (for whatever reason), how can you truly expect forgiveness for your missteps and transgressions?

5.  Take your time.  It may be hard at first.  Don’t wait too long however, or you may never get to forgive them and then you will have to live with that forever.

6. Once you forgive the person, do not bring the situation up ever again.  What I mean is, don’t keep holding it over their head.  You no longer have the right to make them feel bad about what they have done to you.  When you forgive someone forgive them completely.  Do not offer your forgiveness if you do not truly forgive them.

7. Don’t forget to forgive yourself. Remember – you are a Child of God – somewhere along the line – you just forgot!

8. Visit the Center this evening and learn the ancient tools of the Hawaiian Code of Forgiveness –Ho’oponopono!

I’m not sure if this joke is about forgiveness, but here goes.
A woman bought a parrot for a pet. All the parrot did was treat her bad. It insulted her and every time she tried to pick it up, it would peck at her arm.
One day she got fed up with the parrot and as it was insulting her she picked it up, it continued with the insults, “You’re ugly! I can’t stand you!” and it pecked at her arm as she carried it. She opened the freezer door and threw him in and closed the door. From inside, the parrot was still going on for about 5 seconds and then it was suddenly quiet.
She thought, “Oh no, I killed it!” She opened the door and the parrot just looked at her. She picked it up. Then the parrot said:
“I’m very sorry. I apologize for my bad behavior and promise you there will be no more of that. From now on, I will be a respectful, obedient parrot.”

“Well OK” she said, “apology accepted”.

The parrot said “Thank you”. Then he said, “Can I ask you something?”

She said, “Yes, What?”
And the parrot looked at the freezer and asked, “What did the Chicken do?”

When I was young I used to pray for a bike, then I realized that God doesn’t work that way, so I stole a bike and prayed for forgiveness.

Late for a seminar and unable to find parking, I pulled into a spot behind a church. It was only after I’d gotten out of the car that I spotted this sign: “No parking. Forgiveness is our business, but don’t make it harder than it already is.”

Center for Creative Living

August 6, 2009

Graduation 2007 012All are welcome to Sunday Celebration at the Center for Creative Living, UCM Charter #801, at 1460 Koll Circle, Suite “C” – services in back. Need directions? Call (408)392-9090 or visit Healing Chairs (come give or receive a hands-on-healing) start at 9:30am. Celebration is from 10:00 to 11:30am. Dress is casual.

          This Sunday Julie Hawkins and Chris Kahl will be talking about “Forgiveness.” Please join us for this great sermon and stay for their workshop – 1:00pm to 3:00pm Ho’oponopono with Julie and Chris. Fantastic class for those going to the Big Island of Hawaii on the Journey to Paradise in October. Donation!


No Thursday night classes the month of August due to the death of Doti’s Mom, Elenore Ostroga

Happenings at The Center

August 9th – 1:00pm to 3:00pm “Ho’oponopono Introductory Workshop” with Julie Hawkins and Chris Kahl.    LOVE DONATION

          Ho’oponopono means to make right. Essentially, it means to make it right with the ancestors, or to make right with the people with whom you have relationships. We believe that the original purpose of Ho’oponopono was to correct the wrongs that had occurred in someone’s life including Hala (to miss the thing aimed for, or to err, to disobey) and Hewa (to go overboard or to do something to excess) which were illusions, and even ‘Ino (to do harm, implying to do harm to someone with hate in mind), even if accidental.

          We call this the Hawaiian Code of Forgiveness, and it’s an important thought, because when we forgive others, who are we forgiving?  Our-selves, of course. This description is by no means a complete training in how to do Ho’oponopono. While appropriate to do for yourself, for yours and others safety, it should not be done with someone else without training.

          Join Julie and Chris as they talk about the healing opportunities available to you through Ho’oponopono. This is a fantastic Hawaiian intro to those taking the Journey to Paradise trip in October.

Aug. 11th – 6:30 pm to 9:00 pm Healing Drumming with Norbeth and Friends. Join us for an energetic healing. Bring your drum or play one of ours!

Aug. 12th – 7:00pm to 9:00pm Co-Ed Goddess Group with Rev. Anne and Rev. April.

Aug. 14th 7:00pm to 9:00pm Breakthrough Breathwork with Michael Berry. Come join us for an evening of focused breathing, evocative music, and optional bodywork that will change your world. Wear comfortable clothing, bring pillows, blankets and a mat.  (408)509-0764 for more information.

The Celebration of Life for my Mom, Elenore Ostroga, will be held tentatively at Seacliff Beach (where we have Thanksgiving) on Sunday August 23rd at 9.00am. Permanent plans will be arranged within the next couple of days.

Earle Core’s Celebration of Life will be held at the CCL sanctuary on Saturday the 29th of August from 3:00 to 5:00pm.

The Memorial for Tom McCall, Reverend Corry Gott’s dad will be on  August 22nd at 2:00PM at the Garfield Village, 721 Bay Street in Santa Cruz.

Please put all of these beautiful people, their family and friends in your prayers

       Life is meant to be a joyous celebration!

Love and Light, and don’t forget to PRAY! 

Rev. Doti Boon

Joyful Noise

August 6, 2009

U.C.M. Newsletter of Joy, Humor, Laughter, and Inspiration

Graduation 2007 006Editor: Rev. Doti Boon
Volume 8 page 32 (08-06-09)




I am a prayer partner with God!

Prayer Really Does Help! 

          As many of you have heard, my Mom, Elenore “WOW” Ostroga, passed away on Sunday the 2nd of August. She had been quite ill and hospitalized for the past three weeks. Many of you placed her name in the UCM prayer bowl, and we prayed for her to make a speedy recovery or a speedy release. My Mom was ninety years old and was unable to talk, walk, understand her family and refusing to eat. She was slowly shutting down.

          On Sunday morning while I was getting ready for church, I stood in my shower and asked my brother Bart (who died ten years ago) to come take Mom’s hand and dance her away to spirit. Mom and Bart were great dance partners!

          I got to the Center and was preparing my sermon when Dr. Mace called me from Watsonville Hospital and said, “I don’t think your Mom will last more than thirty minutes.” Dr. Ayleen Augustine was walking by my door as I put down the receiver. I grabbed her hand and thrust my sermon at her. “Ayleen these are my notes – could you do church for me?” At this point I was crying, my hands were shaking and my nose was running.

          Ayleen took everything I threw at here and said, “Sure we can do this.” I ran through the church crying and calling out instructions to my Associate Pastor, Rev. Donna Zehner, and anyone else watching me leave the sanctuary.

          Rev. Corky got behind the wheel and we raced over Highway 17.

All the time I was praying, “Please God, let me make it to my Mom before she transitions.” I had promised her that she would not die alone and now God needed to help me keep my promise.

          Forty-five minutes later (Yes, it is a record breaking time racing towards Santa Cruz beach on a Sunday morning in the summer) we screeched into the hospital parking lot.

          My mom was quietly reclining on the bed in ICU. I walked in and looked at her monitors. All of her vital signs were normal! Nurse Kathy told me that my Mom had rallied about an hour before – at the same time I had been doing my frantic praying!

          Mom opened her eyes and I took her hand. I talked to her, stroked her forehead and told her of all the wonders she was going to encounter as she made her journey to Spirit. I reminded her that her son Bart, husband Dan, sisters and brothers and friends would be having a welcoming party for her.

          Her vital signs were slowing down. The nurse came and said that Dr. Mace was calling me from his home. That he had been monitoring her progress and felt she was getting ready to leave.

          A peace came over my Mom, Corky, even the nurses as she slowly made her transition at 1:50pm. Once more my prayers were answered. I could feel my brother Bart and her husband Dan come and take her hands and lead her away. My Mom died the same way she lived, with dignity and purpose.

          Since her death I have received numerous phone calls, e-mails and Facebook writings from all over the world. Each message has said, “She is in our prayers” or, “Our prayers are with you.” And I know, that these prayers and the wonderful support from my church community are keeping me and my family moving forward at this difficult time.

          Thank you to all the folks from South Africa, Mexico City, Chile, Calgary, Canada, Thailand, Miami, Cleveland, Vancouver, Washington, Ashland, Salem and Portland Oregon, Texas, North Carolina, Virginia, Rhode Island and numerous towns and cities in California who have kept my Mom and family in your prayers and in your hearts.

          Please say this prayer in memory of my Mom, who was a Baha’i;

“Blessed is the spot, and the house, and the place, and the city,

and the heart, and the mountain, and the refuge, and the cave, and the valley, and the land, and the sea, and the island, and the meadow where mention of God hath been made, and His praise glorified.” — Bahá’u’lláh 

If praying is an effort for you, try these tips for making

your prayer life more focused and effective.

For some talking with Mother/Father God is as easy as breathing; it happens almost effortlessly. When you ask them how they do it, they simply shrug and reply, “I just pray.” Unfortunately, that’s as helpful as Serena Williams saying, “I just hit the ball,” when asked for some tips on more effective tennis. It may be easy for her to “just hit the ball,” but most of us need more fundamental instruction to get the job done. With that in mind, here are some practical guidelines that might help. The suggestions may not apply to your situation, but if you begin by incorporating a few of them, I know your prayer life will improve.

1. Choose a specific place to pray away from distractions so you can concentrate. Ringing phones, e-mails, cell phones and crying children will sabotage your “quiet time” before it gets started.

2. Pray at the same time every day, if at all possible. Make it part of your regular routine and it will become habit. Write it into your schedule and then treat it just like a daily appointment.

3. Pray out loud. Many people can pray under their breath or in their minds for long periods and still maintain intensity, but for most of us it’s a quick ticket to dreamland. When we pray out loud we have to form intelligent sentences. We have to concentrate more on what we’re praying about.

4. Keep a note pad handy so you can jot down different things that come to mind. Sometimes you’ll get great ideas totally unrelated to what you’ve been praying about. If you jot them down you can quickly get back to the topic at hand without being too distracted.

5. Make a list to keep track of your prayer needs. This can be done several ways. Prayer needs can be listed by category like “Church,” “Family,” or “Friends.” Or, they may be listed by the days of the week. Each day you pray for a different set of needs. You may want to include prayer everyday for a different area of society that has a tremendous influence on the direction of our nation. These seven categories include: (1) church and religion, (2) family and the home, (3) the media, (4) government, (5) education, (6) business and commerce, and (7) the arts and entertainment.

6. Redeem time for praying out of unused corners of your schedule. Those who drive to work can use the time praying instead of screaming at traffic (just don’t close your eyes!). Busy homemakers can combine prayer with housework, especially during the “mindless” chores. Joggers, swimmers and cyclists can use their workout time for prayer. My best times are in the shower or just before I go to sleep.

7. Change the pace during your prayer time. Include praise, thanks- giving gratitude and singing. Spend some of your time reflecting on your own spirituality, meditating on it and digesting its meaning.

8. Keep a prayer journal. Here are two ideas: Keep track of what you prayed for and when you prayed for it. Leave a space to jot down the answer when it comes. This will help you to keep alert to God’s answers. Sometimes answers come in the back door and you don’t want them to slip by you. The second variation is to write the entire prayer in your journal. Make it a personal letter to God or Goddess on a daily basis. Just write “Dear God” instead of “Dear Diary.”

9. Pray with someone else. Though some prayers can only be said in private, there will be times when you’ll want to join hearts with another person in prayer. If you commit to meet on a regular basis, the accountability can really help build consistency. Such prayer events can become powerful and life changing.

10. Pray one-sentence prayers. If the thought of worrying over a prayer topic wears you out, pray short, sincere prayers instead. A sentence or two may be all that’s needed to send your “request” to God. Then, just move on to the next item without feeling guilty for being brief.

11. Put your prayers in a prayer bowl or prayer basket. Each Sunday at CCL we include prayer request slips in your program. These go to UCM headquarters where they are prayed over and once a month placed into a spiritual flame. Writing prayers down really helps!


Disney Trip 004Children’s Prayers

A mother was teaching her 3-year-old the Lord’s prayer. Several evenings she repeated it after her mother. One night she was ready to solo. Mom listened with pride as she enunciated each word, right up to the end. “Lead us not into temptation,” she prayed, “but deliver us some e-mail, Amen.”

A 5 year old boy was sitting down to eat when his mother asked him to pray for his meal. He replied, “Mom we don’t have to. We prayed over this last night.” His mother had prepared leftovers from the day before.

A dad was listening to his child pray “Dear Harold,” at this, dad interrupted and said, “Wait a minute, how come you called God, Harold?” The little boy looked up and said, “That’s what they call Him in church. You know the prayer we say, “Our Father, who art in Heaven, Harold be Thy name.”

One night Mike’s parents overheard this prayer, “Now I lay me down to rest, and hope to pass tomorrow’s test, if I should die before I wake, that’s one less test I have to take.”

A five-year-old said grace at family dinner. “Dear God, thank you for these pancakes.” Her parents asked why she thanked God for pancakes when they were having chicken. She smiled and said, “I thought I’d see if He was paying attention tonight.”

A little boy’s prayer: “Dear God, please take care of my daddy and my mommy and my sister and my brother and my doggy and me. Oh, please take care of yourself, God. If anything happens to you, we’re gonna be in a big mess.”

Little Johnny was softly saying his night prayers kneeling down, and his mother was beside him. “Say your prayers louder, darling, I can’t hear you,” said Little Johnny’s mother. “But I’m not talking to you” was the instant reply.

One Sunday a young child was “acting up” during the morning worship. The parents did their best to maintain some sense of order in the pew but were losing the battle. Finally the father picked the little fellow up and walked sternly up the aisle. Just before reaching the safety of the foyer the little one called loudly to the congregation, “Pray for me! Pray for me!”

And this particular four-year-old girl prayed: “And forgive us our trash baskets as we forgive those who put trash in our baskets.”